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Cptsd Is Impossible to Heal!!

complex ptsd complex ptsd recovery narcissistic abuse recovery narcissistic victim syndrome Jul 09, 2021

'Cptsd is impossible to heal - you will be battling this forever!'

Have you ever heard anyone say this? Have you ever uttered these words yourself? I will admit that there was a time when I truly believed I would never break out of the cptsd. In a very frightening way it was as if I was no longer me... I was taken over by the cptsd and it had become my identity. The person I knew that I was, had become deeply buried under trauma, coping skills, fear, a harsh inner critic, and a hypervigilance that wouldn't let me feel comfortable in my own body, let alone comfortable around others. 

It was so awful that I honestly wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. And there was a time when I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I thought - this is the new 'me', there's nothing I can do but accept it. Those thoughts didn't bring comfort, they left me feeling as if my life had been stolen and as if I were powerless to get it back.

Now, thankfully there was a tiny piece within me, a low, barely audible voice within - urging me to not give up, to continue onward - and I'm so glad that I listened!!

That belief that healing cptsd is impossible is popular - in fact, those very words written in bold were found underneath one of my latest  Youtube videos and it was that very comment that motivated me to write this post.

I think the hardest part of working through childhood trauma, narcissistic abuse and/or ptsd due to prolonged emotional and psychological abuse and manipulation is working through the trauma, rewiring the brain, and getting back in touch with our authentic self and not giving up when we don't see the results fast enough.

It's the hardest part because it forces us to look within - to the pieces of ourselves that we divorced out of survival. It forces us to see the wounds that were administered when we were small, innocent, deserving children. Even if our conscious mind doesn't remember the wounds, our subconscious mind does, and it will do all in its power to try to keep us from seeing those wounds ever again. 

It's not that our subconscious is the enemy. It's that it knows how painful it was for us when those original core wounds were inflicted and it 'feels them' as if they happened yesterday. Since our brain is designed to steer us away from pain and towards pleasure - it associates healing with pain.... and therefore actually tries to prevent us from it!!! 

One of the brains favorite ways to keep you from healing is the belief "It's impossible to heal" or "nothing I try will help" or "No matter how hard I try I will fail."

Yes - those limiting beliefs are actually the subconscious minds way of keeping you from the pain of healing. Pain of healing? Yes!!! It does hurt as we are healing - very much like it hurts to have a splinter taken out, or it hurts to have an operation, or how it hurts to rip off a band aide. But no one would stop doing any of those things simply to avoid the pain because they know that the end justifies the means! 

Well - that's the mindset we need to overcome - yes overcome ... not deal with... complex ptsd. I wish there was a secret on/off button to turn off the trauma - but the way passed is through!!! It does take a lot of patience and compassion since it takes time to rewire the brain, to upgrade subconscious beliefs and to calm the body and nervous system once again - but it is so worth it.

If you feel you have been struggling longer than you care to - then I'd like to invite you to join me in my upcoming LIVE workshop on July 31st at 1:00 p.m. Eastern time. We are going to talk about the first stages of healing - what they look like, what to do/what not to do - and there is an optional breathwork session taking place right after the cognitive portion of the workshop. The cost of the workshop is $25.00 - and I do have a limit of spaces allowed on the conference call so if this resonates with you, here is the link. There will also be time for a q & a, so if you have any questions you would want me to answer, have them prepared - you can even send them to me prior so as to make sure your questions gets answered =D. 

If I can do it - if I can break through the cptsd that I felt held me prisoner in my own body - then you can too!!! I look forward to seeing those who join the workshop, but either way - don't ever give up on yourself!!!! Life is not about surviving, or simply existing - it's about thriving and creating the life you really want!